Heres a little back story. I have Endometriosis and the horrible disease has taken 6 babies from me before they were born. i always wanted a big family as although i had 6 sisters and 1 brother i was always alone as a kid and didnt want my children to be the same.
It hard being lonely and even as a adult i constantly feel alone.
I met my partner who has 2 kids of his own 2 boys the same ages as mine. I was so happy i couldnt have anymore but i would treat them like my own. I knew they were not mine biologically and i get that but while they stayed with us they would be treated the same. Although i was always careful about telling them off and always got permission from there dad first. Its just something i did incase it ever came back to bite me
GUESS WHAT …… IT DID
my partners ex never liked me she always thought i was taking the kids dad away from them. I will point out i refused to get with him until i knew it was over between them. I welcomed his kids and yes im not saying there wasnt difficult times but they way they were treated in our house was different to them at home.
I wont use there real names but P is the eldest and last time i saw him he was 8 and D was 5 the last time i saw him.
They both still slept with there mum at night which made it difficult here as they didnt do that with us, also they were treated like babies. To the extent they wouldnt eat beans or peas without a spoons. D didnt know how to wipe his bum and couldnt walk down stairs. P was treated like he has extreme autism and would never amount to anything.
He is the cleverest boy i have ever met and he knew it. He was cheeky and we had our falling outs but once again i left it to his dad to tell him off. He was begining to settle but everytime he went back to his mums he would go backwards again. H constantly had a cough on and off which i was asking if he could get checked but always told it cronic croup so nothing was done. But if i even suggested that he should be tested for asthma his mum would kick off.
D just wouldnt speak. but i got to teach him his first a-g of the alphabet and to walk down the stairs he was so proud.
But we were stopped from see them due to me being accused of hitting both of them repeated over the head.
No may i ask if my kids came back and told me this had happened nothing and i mean nothing on this word would stop me hitting the person being accused. The kids were stopped coming round. My partner filed for custody rights and the courts beleived the mum with no proof. I have had all the checks done, social services, my kids school the lot and they all have stated i wouldnt hit the kids.
We received the school photos today and its heart breaking how p looks. he is half the boy he use to be. For his mum to make him lie in court like that about some one and then stop him seeing his dad for over a year has clearly damaged this little boy.
Yes we didnt always get on but i would never hit him. Not sure how to make u understand what he is like. This boy cant lie to save his life. He tries but fails bless him. I am not saying he doesnt have issues but i do not think he has severe autism. i really do beleive his mum is mentally ill and is doing it for attention. i have called social services and not not only does P have ticks but D does to and when they left us they were both happy kids. My partner and i got engaged and that when everything changed. How can u get ur kids to lie like that. The poor boy looks traumatised in his picture.
There is nothing i can do about it though. The courts wouldnt even let my partner speak at the hearing. She dominated the conversation. and this isnt me just siding with my partner. D came round with bruises on his face for weeks and finally there dad mentioned it and what do u know he didnt show up with any after that.
The courts wont listen and neither will social services.
